Monday, December 31, 2012

2012 comes to an end!

As we get older, the years just seem to by faster. I thought I would reflect back month by month on some highlights of 2012!

January:
In January I started the Biggest Loser at my gym again, ready to up my fitness some more. I love this program, and was on Team DJ, the black team, once again. I had the chance to go to a training in Yakima, on Wraparound Coaching, with the infamous Laura Burger-Lucas, one of my heros in this world. This month, Ryan and I decided to go forward with our dream of adopting a child through foster to adopt. I scheduled our orientation class, and unbeknowst to us...our baby girl made her way into this world!!

February:
We attended our foster parent orientation and started the application process, one that wouildn't be complete until July. Ryan and I began a new side job adventure through our friend, Matt. We started as DaVinco vendors, ordering and stocking shelves at Cash and Carry. I continued with my Biggest Loser challenge, competing in Team Challenges. I hosted a Pull-Ups potty training House Party.

March:
I finished the Biggest Loser Challenge this month, having lost weight and inches. I had struggled a bit, due to low blood pressure and orthostatic hypotension. I did a Tilt Table Test at the hospital, which was a very crazy experience!! Not one I would like to repeat. On Saint Patricks Day, our family made the trek to Grand Coulee for a Memorial Service for Ryan's Dad and Grandma. We were able to celebrate their lives and see all of Ryan's family. A highlight for me was a Jury Duty Summons! I have always wanted Jury Duty, and finally got summoned;) Ryan and I competed in a 15K Badger Mountain Challenge together. It was freezing cold, but be completed it, and hope to do it again next year!

April:
I got to go in for Jury Duty! I was excused by 11, but I thought it was amazing! For Easter, we headed to my Mom's, where the 4 cousins hunted egss together and we ate too much. It's always fun to see the little boys together! Casey went to a date to the park with his girlfriend, Mya. They rode in the wagon together, and shared lunch in the picnic basket. I completed the PRIDE training required of foster parents, inching us closer to our foster license. I got a new bike!!

May:
We headed to Bend, where I hosted Jolene's bridal shower! Ryan started his softball season. I competed in the Sage Rat Run, a 12K! That was 7.4 miles, and I ran every step! My Mom, Dad, Jenna, Matt, Kelly and Caleb brought the RV's over and visited in the Tri-Cities. A good time was had!

June:
I had the chance to fly to San Francisco and attend an amazing training by Dr. Ross Greene, on Collaborative Problem Solving. I got to walk across the Golden Gate Bridge! I had been training for a sprint triathlon, and went for a team open water swim. Due to Immersion Pulmonary Edema, I had to be pulled out of the water, by 2 heros. I spent a few days in the ICU, and the next week recovering at home. A VERY scary incident, and I didn't get to complete the tri.

July:
In the beginning of the month, our foster license was finally approved, 8 weeks late!! And on July 9th, one phone call changed our lives forever! We met Emily that day. It had been a rough day for her, but she still was all smiles for Ryan and I. We fell in love and brought her home! My Mom and Jenna came that weekend, loaded with bags of pick presents. Our little girl who came home with a onesie and nothing else, suddenly had a closet full of clothes and toys! We had photos taken, of her and as a family this month. A friend of mine hosted a welcome party for her, which was lots of fun. I started FMLA leave, 6 weeks worth, to bond with my baby girl.

August:
Ryan had 2 weeks of vacation, which was also the last 2 weeks of my FMLA leave. We went to Seaside with my family, and camped at a KOA. We slept in a tent 5 nights, with 2 kids! That was quite an accomplishment. We had a blast, Casey loved the ocean! We also went to my Grandpa Al's 85th birthday party at my Mom's house, where I got to see my Aunt Barbara from Tennessee, and meet her daughter, Marty, who is my Mom's cousin.  We also  got in some boating and sunshine in Tri-cities.

September:
As I got ready to go back to work full-time, M's daycare situation wasn't working. I made arrangements at work to return part time the rest of the year, until M could attend daycare with Casey. I started another Biggest Loser challenge! I had the unique opportunity to fly out to Duke University in North Carolina and be part of a study on Immersion Pulmonary Edema. I was the 10th athlete they flew out. I have some neat pictures of my experience, which was just crazy! It was very mentally and physically challenging. And probably deserves a blog of its own:)

October:
October started with a trip to Seattle to say good bye to my little brother, as he leaves for Marine boot camp!! I am so proud of him! It was Ryan and I's birthdays, although, as we turned 32, it's not nearly as exciting as when we were younger! Jolene, Nick and Kayla came out for a weekend, and we went to the Pumpkin Patch. It was a great weekend that went by way too fast. Halloween was a blast, our kids were dinosaurs. They enjoyed trick or treating, especially Casey!

November:
This month, we were lucky enough to have my little sister fly over and spend 2 weeks with us! She also got to be here for Casey's 3rd birthday and his Construction themed birthday party. I finished my Biggest Loser challenge at my lowest weight ever. I was 3rd place! For Thanksgiving, we headed to my parents house, and had a fun filled weekend. We did some black Friday shopping, and again, ate too much.

December:
We had family Christmas photos done, and the kids met Santa....we got THE best Santa photo, and both kids are smiling! Ryan and I got to go on a date, dinner and shopping! It was our first solo date since M arrived! I officially went back to work full time mid December, but have the last week of December and first week of January off! We celebrated Christmas with my family mid December, and went to Zoo Lights, made gingerbread houses, wore Ugly Sweaters, ate, drank and we were Merry! We celebrated Christmas at home, Ryan was off Christmas Eve and Day, for the first time in years! Christmas Eve we went swimming at the gym, and did a special 12 days of Christmas work out. We had dinner with Nicole's family, and finally saw a baby belly on Nicole! Christmas Day it snowed! All day long! We stayed in our jammies all day, opened presents and played with our new toys.

We had a wonderful year! We certainly had our share of ups and downs. This year we had to say good bye to Matt and Kelly's lab, Otis. My first nephew. A true "Marley and Me" story. Otis was Caleb's best friend, and I was always amazed at the capacity at which Otis loved Caleb. Otis joins some other boys at the Rainbow Bridge, they are probably having a ball together.

Shauna's best friend was taken from us this year as well. Stacy was hit by a driver under the influence of drugs, as she walked to her car outside her home. She was a fighter, and hung in there for a month. Her friends and family and co-workers rallied to raise money for her, held benefits and shared stories. She brought a whole community together. Stacy was a rare gem on this earth. She had a beautiful smile, a positive attitude, and was an elementary school teacher, who loved her students and job. Stacy left behind her high school sweet heart, Jason, they celebrated their 6 year anniversary while Stacy was in the ICU at Harbor View. I can't think about Stacy without tears. Stacy was Shauna's best friend, but was at my house so often, my parents referred to her as their other daughter. She worked at the theatre with me, as did Jason, and pretty much all of my friends and Shauna's! Stacy was just one of those people who never had a bad thing to say. She had a nervous laugh that she did, when something was awkward. She was so cheerful, and called her friends "sweetpea". I think of her everytime I call my daughter that. Stacy was taken too young, she did so much good in this world, and had so much more to give. I just can't comprehend that she isn't here. My heart goes out to her family, especially Jason, and her sister Ashley.

Now that I have dampened the mood, here is to 2012! You were wonderful and heart breaking!

Bring on 2013!

Saturday, December 22, 2012

I have a 3 year old.

I don't know how it's possible, but Casey turned 3 on November 20th! He is 38 pounds and 40'' tall (3'4''!). Continuing with a trend of moose-like size, he is on the 94% for weight and 95th% for height!

Casey is the funniest kid. He cracks me up! He is all boy, loves to rough house with his Dad, well, really everyone, but his Dad plays the hardest back with him! He has embraced being a big brother with 100% of his being. He loves to help...especially vaccuuming and doing the dishes. He loves to feed his dogs. He is very big into dancing right now, and he has some serious moves.

I love that Casey climbs into our bed every morning. The time varies, this morning it was 4am, he brought his Cars blanket in, snuggled between Ryan and I, and slept till 7:20. Yesterday, I heard him wake up and get up, and when I went to check on him, he was in my spot in bed, with his arms crossed behind his head and feet crossed at his ankles. Just chilling:) I cherish snuggling i bed with him, because he is a busy boy, who doesn't have a lot of time for snuggling. I take it where I can get it.

I love the way Casey talks. It's that cute 3 year old conversation. A big topic is around the bathroom, because of potty training. We talk a LOT about poop and potty. But Casey hasn't mastered the first "p" sound, so it's "hooping", and "I have to go Hotty". "You hooping Mommy? Bee one? Wiwow one?" I always hope he doesn't go to school and share if my poop was big or little. The other day he said "Ew Daddy, that's nasty!". We laughed til we cried. I don't know how kids can have such funny imaginations, or how their little minds work. When Ryan put up the Christmas lights, we were outside and Casey went indoors. We both went to go inside, Ryan through the front door and me through the garage. We ended up back in the front yard, and said at the same time "Casey locked me out". Uh oh! We went to the front door, where he was peeking through the window. "Casey, unlock the door." was met with "No! HAHAHA!!" Crazy evil laughter and a scrunched up nose. He threw his head back and laughed more. We had to hide and laugh and laugh and compose ourselves, because really? How did he decide to do that?! Ryan had his keys, so we got in, and Casey got a time out. I couldn't look at him...I was still laughing!

Casey went on a lot of adventures this year. His favorite was probably the ocean, with his Aunt Kelly, Uncle Matt and cousin Caleb; and Grandpa Fish, Grandma Bock-Bock, Uncle Dustin and Aunt Jenna. He hasn't stopped talking about the ocean! A lady asked Casey how old he was, he answered "5". (Yea, we are working on that...people believe him! He is the same size as his 5 year old cousin!). She asked if he was going to Kindergarten next year. "No", he replied, "I going to the ocean". He tells me all the time we are going to the oceran. "Later. When Daddy done working". For awhile he was convinced his Aunt Kelly was still at the ocean. Couldn't convince him otherwise! Casey loves to bike, and to ride in the trailer behind our bikes when he gets tired. He loves the park. Loves to go boating. Swimming. Loved horse back riding. Picking cherries. The splash park. Really likes getting his own frozen yogurt or ice cream cone. He loves to read. To count. (Counting is a mix of english and spanish. Not usually in the right order either. One, two, uno, dos, eight, nine, ten!!). He will steal your nose and eat it. He loves to tickle, and to get you with spiders. He teases and makes up games.

Casey loves M. While he can be wild and crazy and knock her down, pick her up and drop her...he really loves her. He likes being a "brudder". He wears his brother t-shirts with great pride. And he tells his friends she is HIS sister. NOT theirs. "Pabas has his own sister. M MY sister". When she cries, he will pat her head. "It o-hay baby". He will hold her hand. Rock her car seat. He even climbed in her crib, covered her with a blanket, layed next to her and patted her back. He likes to help feed her, although her cheerios seem to disappear rather quickly with his help. He has been shushing us, and whispering "Be super quiet, baby sleeping". Sometimes, he gets so impatient to play with her, he will wake her up from a nap or in the morning. Not cool. But really cute.

I love to tuck Casey in at night. We brush the uckies out of his teeth, and then a great search commences for what will be in his bed that night. 20 trains? A huge book? A stuffed animal bigger than he? Blocks? Who knows. Then we have to decide on which blanket. Cars? Moon? Bubbles? They have names. Then we need to read one book. Then we need to sing a song. Then we need to give hugs and kisses. He now needs the door open. Several minutes after this finishes, and I am downstairs....we will hear him run down the hall, into our bathroom, go potty and race back to his room. It doesnt matter if he went right before bed. We hear it every night. We laugh every time.

Casey is a little firecracker. He is busy, and funny and loves to play with his cousins and friends. Not much scares him, although he is giving me early grey hair. Nothing is sweeter to hear than "I yuv you Mommy". Or his sweet kisses. I am so excited for his future, but I am really enjoying this crazy ride as Casey's Mom.

Wednesday, December 19, 2012

A family built through adoption.

I experienced foster to adopt as a sister, but it's so much different as a parent. Ryan and I talked a lot about this decision to build our family this way, it meant a lot to both of us. I am lucky to have married someone like Ryan...we were definitely meant for each other. It's a long process to get licensed through the state, and one we kept private. We wanted the emphasis to be on our child, and not being foster parents. As my Dad told me this last weekend "Just wait til everyone says what a good person you are, and thanking you for adopting. But we are the lucky ones, blessed with these children, not the other way around". We've heard it, and it's what we hoped to avoid by not sharing until we got Baby "M". She is our focus!

The love part is easy. Being a family is easy. It's normal and perfect to us. The hard part is the conversations with others. I think everyone is well-meaning, has positive intentions and is interested in our story. But I have to share what makes this journey hard for me as a Mom.

"What happened to her REAL Mom and Dad?"
Ryan and I are M's REAL Mom and Dad. We are not her BIOLOGICAL Mom and Dad. We kiss her boo-boos. We rock her to sleep. We teach her to crawl, and to play, and we love her. We are Mommy and Daddy. Casey is her big brother. From the moment she was placed in my arms, she was mine. Just as Casey, when placed in my arms in the hospital was my son...she is my daughter. I am her Mom. Kids accept this so much more willingly than adults. My good friends daughter asked "Mommy? Did Baby M grow in Megan's tummy?" Her Mom just gave birth to her little brother, so she was an expert on tummy's and babies. I looked at my friend and she answered so eloquently, "No, honey, another Mom grew M in her tummy, but Megan is her Mommy now". And her little girl said "Okay!" and ran off to play with Casey. It hurts my heart when others ask about her real Mom. Because I'm it. We get asked a lot about the details of her Biological parents. But that is private. That is for Ryan and I to know, and someday, when M is old enough to understand, that will be for her to know. The rest of the world gets to know that we are a family, that M is our daughter, Casey is our son, and we love each other.

"Did her Mom use drugs and alcohol while she was pregnant?"
Would you ever ask a friend if they used while pregnant? I would hope not. So, why is it okay to ask me that, about my child? Why would you need to know that? And how is the answer going to matter to you? Would you think of her differently if the answer is yes? Would you think of her differently if the answer is no? What if we don't have that answer? I have been asked this so many times. It hurts a lot to hear this question. What are you implying when you ask me that? The answer to that question, whether it be YES, NO or I DON'T KNOW, has nothing to do with you. If the answer makes a difference to you, you probably don't belong in my life, or the life of my children. But it hurts my heart and my feelings every time I am asked.

"Is the adoption finalized? Is she yours yet?"
Adopting through the state takes a long time. A really long time. Private adoption is finalized nearly immediately after placement, but that is not the case in foster to adopt. A finalized adoption won't change anything but the legal paperwork. It won't make me any more of a parent, I am already her Mom. It won't make me love her more, I already love her to the moon and back. She loves me, she loves her Daddy and her big brother. A stamp of approval by a Judge is just that. And trust me, we will share that day when it comes! We will celebrate that day, it will be a BIG deal...but it may not happen for awhile. We are patient. We live our lives as a family, like any other family. We are excited to celebrate Christmas with our kids,  and to celebrate her first birthday...she is ours. She is our daughter. She is a little sister. A Granddaughter. A Great-Granddaughter. A niece. A sweet, smiling, giggling 11 month old. She is OUR daughter. I know people mean well when they ask. I don't doubt that at all. But, in our eyes, the status of the legal mumbo-jumbo doesn't determine the status of our family.

"But she doesn't look like you...."
Nope. She doesn't. And that is the extent of the answer that I give strangers. I have a fair skinned, tow head blonde, blue eyed boy. And I have a dark/olive skinned, jet black hair and beautiful brown eyed girl. They are strikingly different. They accept that, they love each other, play with each other, kiss each other and fight with each other. They are brother and sister. Casey protects his little sister (when he isn't knocking her over); he lets his friends know at school "That's MY sister, NOT YOURS!" Again, I love the innocence and acceptingness of kids. It's just pure love. And we will foster that while they are young, and hope they are the best of friends when bigger. For some reason, others seem to need a reason as to why our kids look so different, but again, our looks are not what makes us a family. Love makes a family!

So please, love M with us. Know that we are her parents. Don't ask us about her past. Don't ask us about the legal stuff. Ask us what she's up to. Ask us what her latest trick is. Ask us if we are getting any sleep. And please, don't ever refer to us as anything but her Mom and Dad.

Sunday, October 28, 2012

The difference a year makes.

I realized I haven't posted in over a year. Time to make up for lost time! As I read back, I love the memories, which is inspiring me to restart a blog. With some new security, and a new child! Chances are, is you are reading this, you know my kids and I...but from now on...they will be referred to as brother and sister, rather than posting their names. Maybe if I totally figure out all the security settings that will change. This is a test....gotta see if this works beofre I go posting exciting stuff:)

Monday, August 29, 2011

Summertime and the livin is not so easy....

Well I can't believe summer is almost over. Our weather is supposed to start cooling down, and not heating back up again. Normally this would devestate me, but I think I am ready to say goodbye to this summer. It's been too busy, too stressful and too sad. A Mama can only take so much, and I am done!!!

Casey of course is still growing like a crazy weed. He was 3 feet tall today, and outgrew the Doctor's table to get measured. He is 31-32 pounds, which is down a little, as he has been sick. He is working really hard on communicating, and picks up new words and phrases all the time. This makes him really happy and excited, he loves when we understand each other.

I made my first batch of laundry soap the other day, and homemade Draino, and next on the list is dishwasher soap. We seem to run the dishwasher every single day, since we eat all our meals at home, and actually cook!! Together, we have lost 75 pounds! And more importantly, the healthy way. As the weather changes and everyone else goes back to school, I feel this nesting craze, and since I have no one to get ready for school, I am getting us ready for fall:) Lots of organizing and getting rid of stuff, cleaning, cooking and freezing meals.

Stress means Ryan needs a project, so we moved 12,300 pounds of pea gravel in the play area in one day. It looks great. Even he couldn't believe we did it that fast!

I finished up my 2nd Biggest Loser challenge, this one was 22 weeks, as opposed to 8 weeks. It was from March to August. I was in 3rd or 4th place all the way just based on percent of weight loss, but after the final measurements, I WON!!! Still waiting to collect my prize and see what it is:) The next 8 week challenge starts Sept 11. I am already signed up!

We have started the tornado of 2nd birthday parties, starting with Casey's cousins, and a friend, and now we have a few every month for the next year, lol. We know a lot of babies from me teaching prenatal water aerobics for so long:)

We are really enjoying the fresh produce this time of year.....melons galore, corn on the cob, onions, peppers, jalapenos, tomatoes, green beans, peaches, plums, nectarines and oh the berries.....I will be sad when the season ends.

Well, I have to get back to Words with Friends...so that is all I have for now. I need to come up with a good topic for the blog....

Sunday, May 22, 2011

A post about ME!

I love to talk about Casey...but today, I want to brag about myself. Because I am so proud and I feel so good!

Since December I have lost 43 pounds! I have tried lots of times to lose weight, and I lose 10-15 pounds, only to gain it back again. I tried weight watchers 3 times. I tried the South Beach Diet twice.

I have it figured out. It's a lifestyle change, not a diet. It's calories in and calories out. I enjoy this. I feel so much better. I have worked really hard, and I feel strong. My endurance has increased so much. I love the outside, and I LOVE walking, hiking, biking etc. I love kickboxing, step aerobics, water aerobics and working hard!! I have a heart rate monitor that tracks my calories burned. It makes me work harder when I know my HR, and I can increase it, and watch the cals burned increased!

I got a wonderful compliment yesterday, that I have totally transformed my body:) While I still have a long ways to go, that felt really good to hear. I also got to go shopping, and bought a whole new summer wardrobe! I started selling my old clothes, because I will never need them again! I am down 3-4 sizes. It was fun to grab clothes to try on, and they all fit.

I know this is a lifestyle change, because even after surgery, I lost weight. Even after 2 weeks of traveling, and eating on the go, I lost weight. No excuses. I can do it.

I have a wonderful support system. I have a wonderful group of "Biggest Losers" from my gym. We have a facebook page and do challenges together. We encourage each other and push each other. I have my "myfitnesspal" group too. And my family, who is also a bunch of "losers". And my wonderful hubby, who continually encourages me, and reminds me that I am awesome, regardless of what I weigh. He has also lost weight, and is my favorite workout buddy. Now we have gym dates! And also, I am just a couple pounds away from weighing less than him...which has never happened as long as I have known him (4 amazing years!!).

I am looking forward to hitting my next goals. 45, then 50 pounds lost! Thanks to everyone for your support and kind words!!

I will have to post pics soon!

Sunday, May 8, 2011

Mother's Day



Happy Mother's Day! Now there are 2 reasons to celebrate...my wonderful Mom, and the fact that I get to be a Mom to Casey.


I think becoming a Mom is the ultimate bonding between Mother and daughter. I have always been close to my Mom, my whole family, really. But, sharing experiences throughout my pregnancy, through childbirth, and now as a Mom, is just a whole new level:) And also, it is so much fun to see my Mom (and Dad of course) play with Casey! I am pretty sure my Mom takes Gramma of the century award...there are 4 very lucky little boys who call her Gramma!!


You can't read it on Casey's shirt, but the shirt he is wearing says "Dad is the boss, until Mom comes home". LOL. We had a fun family day. Still limited with my broken wing, but we walked an hour this morning. Slow and easy....it's really weird not pushing the stroller. Did a little shopping, had Subway for lunch. We took Casey to the neighborhood park this afternoon to go sliding and swinging. We made a turkey breast tenderloin in the crockpot for dinner, with potatos and asparagus. Yum! I am not the most fun person without pain meds....or with really. I am either zombie or cranky...but hopefully this arm will be back to normal soon.


I really love being Casey's Mom. He can melt my heart with a smile, a hug, a laugh....or when he comes up and holds my hand. He took his Dad's hand at the store today, than mine. He looked back and forth between us and laughed. Just precious. When I pick up Casey from daycare, I love that he runs full speed from where ever he is, shreiking and laughing and arms raised to hug me. Makes me feel pretty dang loved! Casey has been giving kisses, but he really likes open mouth kisses, pretty sloppy! He loves the dogs so much. We are working on being gentle, and petting them gently. He likes to play fetch with them. He likes all dogs he sees on our walks and points them all out.